This is my anger can*. Anger dumps into it whenever someone irritates me.

When I find the dirty socks dropped in the hall…again.
When nobody put their dishes in the dishwasher…again.
When somebody says a hurtful word to my son…again.

My anger can should have a warning label:  CAUTION—CONTENTS UNDER PRESSURE.  EXPLOSION HAZARD!

Oops, too late. Boom! My anger can explodes. I vent, releasing my feelings, and spraying anger on anyone and everyone nearby.

The explosion is messy. It demonstrates a lack of self-control. It’s a bad example for my children.

Then, I find my explosion in today’s wisdom search. Proverbs 29:11 says A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.

This is not the script I want for my life!  All the parenting skills in the world will not cover for foolishness. Help me Lord! I cry. And He does.

I’ve read Proverbs 29:11 before, but today I am seeing something new in it. Perhaps it is the way I’m reading it with the emphasis on the word his.

Sometimes I have been guilty of having a pity party for myself. Lord, why am I having to deal with this anger? As if I’m the only one with an anger issue.

The longer I live, the more I notice that anger is simply a part of everyone’s experience, from babies to toddlers to teens to senior adults.

Anger is a warning sign. A signpost of injustice, or simply human irritation. The question isn’t what if I feel anger? The real question is what will I do with the anger I feel?

Giving full vent to anger is foolish, and fools have all sorts of troubles. You can see a few examples here, and here, and here.

God graciously offers us a better way: The way of wisdom. Anger will come, but it does not control me. Instead, I master it.

What would my new year look like if I gained a heart of wisdom and kept myself under control? I think that’s what I will ask God for in the new year.

Lord, I have spent enough time foolishly giving full vent to my anger in 2010. Will You help me, in 2011 to walk by the fruit of Your Holy Spirit of self-control? Teach me, Lord, the ways of wisdom that I may be quick to listen, slow to anger, and quick to forgive. My family needs my patience, and God, I am trusting You to grow me for Your glory.

Please take 30 seconds  to meditate on this verse, and let me know what you think about it too.  A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control Proverbs 29:11 

Each Wisdom Wednesday post is prompted by a verse from the chapter of Proverbs that corresponds to the posting date.

* The “anger can” is a word picture of Gary Smalley’s from his book Making Love Last Forever. It’s a great resource not only for married couples, but for anyone who’s ready to deal with their anger.

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I am a mom who is passionate about equipping moms and parents to help their children through the challenging times we live in today.

2 responses »

  1. Michelle says:

    That was an awesome post. It really convicted me and was just what the Lord wanted me to hear on this very day. Thanks so much!

    • Thanks so much for your comment. Isn’t it awesome how the Lord orchestrates our steps so we can hear HIS message for us? Blessings to you and your family. I noticed you are now following me on Twitter. I would love to get better acqauinted. Sounds like we have a lot in common. Lisa

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